Relationships Today....

Do we really prioritize people and relationships over fun and money? Do we recharge our phone enough to talk to our beloved relations? Do we travel enough to get to know if someone you share a bond with, really needs you? Do you really love all the people you say are important to you? You think you give them enough time to let them speak their mind out?

Think it out!!! Write it somewhere or speak it out to some anonymous trustworthy person. Because when you talk about something, you actually know what you need.

Talk, not because they need to know your perspective, but because you need to know yourself. 

Who really does the talking these days. Relationships break because of distances and  selfishness. You talk only when you feel like talking. You dont when you dont want to even though there is no reasonable reason at all. Why cant we walk in somebody else's shoes? Why cant we consider the relationship and not think about ourselves. Why doesn't this 'break' remind us of all the hopes and promises we made to the other person? Whenever any situation arises, the first thing we should be considering is, 'is the relationship more valuable or the reason behind the fight'. 

Every relationship is like a parent child relationship. Deal with the adolescence and the child will become your best friend forever. 

What do we really need? What do we do? How can we find the answers for all these without talking out whats on our head.. We need to open up. To someone. Be it your girl friend, o brother o a childhood friend, just express yourself. Not because they deserve to know your life but because you trust them and you need to know what is really going on... 

You can run away or not think about situations very easily. But you need to have the courage to think about a problem, face it and fight it. Because you might run away from it fr a day, or 2 or 3 months o may be an year. But it wont leave you in peace. 

#This is based on a real life incident. Any resemblance to any characters either virtual or existential is not coincidence at all#

The ultimate way of expressing Love

The other day, when i was in Hyderabad meeting friends, i met this close friend of mine after a long time. We decided to spend some more time to catch up where we left out. and he said 'I never thought this would affect me so much. I shouldn't have got physical with that girl two years back. I should have kept it special and reserved for this one. Now when i truly love Apoorva, i feel so guilty about something. I feel she might not accept my love for what i did.' Not just him, a few other friends, who are in love also told me something like this.Why does this happen? When we expect our love to show their true love only to us, why can't we deliver the same. Why should we give importance to temporary physical pleasure and call it a one-night-stand and regret it later. For people who do not regret, I am sorry, you are not in love.

What is sex? Is it just a physical activity done for heavenly pleasure? Are we really better than animals? We communicate. We expect, We love. We sacrifice. Then why can't we stick to one person.. Sex is its best when it is not planned. It is the ultimate way of expressing Love. Only then, even scientifically, it is considered to be the best way of gaining its pleasure. Even in history, when people say 'we are in love, we even had sex', it means, they loved each other so much that they did not find any other way to express it.

In other countries, people believe in live-in-relationships and multiple weddings. But Indians are happier than any of those people. Because, our culture says, we cannot have sex before we get married. true, this was said years ago. But it never said, go have fun with how many ever you want and still expect your spouse to be virgin. Because practically also, we know it is not possible. Unless we are something, we cannot expect the same.

Around us, we see a lot of people who make friends with a hotter person than an average looking person much faster. They have fun and partly, equally quick. They dont talk to each other, not to their mutual friends, not to anybody they might find close to the other person. And why is this happening? Guilt? May be..

I am brought up in a middle class, partly orthodox family. I studied in a girls' school and i had guy friends since i was 12. Making such a mistake isn't really hard for me. But misusing the freedom given kills me. I was brought up around people a few years older than me. And fortunately, I witnessed their relationships, guilt and break ups. And decided not to make any or let my people make any such mistakes. But things turned out the other way. Best friends started hiding such incidences, they avoided me because if we met, they had to talk about it and would feel guilty about the same. I am not here to find faults or correct your lives. I am a friends, keeping you as safe as i can, warning you before you do something. I am still a friend not a foe.

We show love to our siblings by sacrificing little things for them. we show love to our parents by doing what they want us to and by caring. We show love to our friends by standing by them, every time they need us. But how do we love to someone we love above all? Doing all these does not please us. We need more. We need to show more. Then comes the act of getting physical. This not a planned act. It happens by itself in true love. But we have ethics. What if, that person is not our true love? What if we get married to somebody else? What if you fight and break-up later? That is why we have to keep a few actions on hold. Later, imagine the other person saying 'lets not get physical for a while. Lets see why we are really together'. Doesn't it hurt? Isn't it another way of insulting you or your ethics or love for him/her. Think about it...