The other day, when i was in Hyderabad meeting friends, i met this close friend of mine after a long time. We decided to spend some more time to catch up where we left out. and he said 'I never thought this would affect me so much. I shouldn't have got physical with that girl two years back. I should have kept it special and reserved for this one. Now when i truly love Apoorva, i feel so guilty about something. I feel she might not accept my love for what i did.' Not just him, a few other friends, who are in love also told me something like this.Why does this happen? When we expect our love to show their true love only to us, why can't we deliver the same. Why should we give importance to temporary physical pleasure and call it a one-night-stand and regret it later. For people who do not regret, I am sorry, you are not in love.
What is sex? Is it just a physical activity done for heavenly pleasure? Are we really better than animals? We communicate. We expect, We love. We sacrifice. Then why can't we stick to one person.. Sex is its best when it is not planned. It is the ultimate way of expressing Love. Only then, even scientifically, it is considered to be the best way of gaining its pleasure. Even in history, when people say 'we are in love, we even had sex', it means, they loved each other so much that they did not find any other way to express it.
In other countries, people believe in live-in-relationships and multiple weddings. But Indians are happier than any of those people. Because, our culture says, we cannot have sex before we get married. true, this was said years ago. But it never said, go have fun with how many ever you want and still expect your spouse to be virgin. Because practically also, we know it is not possible. Unless we are something, we cannot expect the same.
Around us, we see a lot of people who make friends with a hotter person than an average looking person much faster. They have fun and partly, equally quick. They dont talk to each other, not to their mutual friends, not to anybody they might find close to the other person. And why is this happening? Guilt? May be..
I am brought up in a middle class, partly orthodox family. I studied in a girls' school and i had guy friends since i was 12. Making such a mistake isn't really hard for me. But misusing the freedom given kills me. I was brought up around people a few years older than me. And fortunately, I witnessed their relationships, guilt and break ups. And decided not to make any or let my people make any such mistakes. But things turned out the other way. Best friends started hiding such incidences, they avoided me because if we met, they had to talk about it and would feel guilty about the same. I am not here to find faults or correct your lives. I am a friends, keeping you as safe as i can, warning you before you do something. I am still a friend not a foe.
We show love to our siblings by sacrificing little things for them. we show love to our parents by doing what they want us to and by caring. We show love to our friends by standing by them, every time they need us. But how do we love to someone we love above all? Doing all these does not please us. We need more. We need to show more. Then comes the act of getting physical. This not a planned act. It happens by itself in true love. But we have ethics. What if, that person is not our true love? What if we get married to somebody else? What if you fight and break-up later? That is why we have to keep a few actions on hold. Later, imagine the other person saying 'lets not get physical for a while. Lets see why we are really together'. Doesn't it hurt? Isn't it another way of insulting you or your ethics or love for him/her. Think about it...
What is sex? Is it just a physical activity done for heavenly pleasure? Are we really better than animals? We communicate. We expect, We love. We sacrifice. Then why can't we stick to one person.. Sex is its best when it is not planned. It is the ultimate way of expressing Love. Only then, even scientifically, it is considered to be the best way of gaining its pleasure. Even in history, when people say 'we are in love, we even had sex', it means, they loved each other so much that they did not find any other way to express it.
In other countries, people believe in live-in-relationships and multiple weddings. But Indians are happier than any of those people. Because, our culture says, we cannot have sex before we get married. true, this was said years ago. But it never said, go have fun with how many ever you want and still expect your spouse to be virgin. Because practically also, we know it is not possible. Unless we are something, we cannot expect the same.
Around us, we see a lot of people who make friends with a hotter person than an average looking person much faster. They have fun and partly, equally quick. They dont talk to each other, not to their mutual friends, not to anybody they might find close to the other person. And why is this happening? Guilt? May be..
I am brought up in a middle class, partly orthodox family. I studied in a girls' school and i had guy friends since i was 12. Making such a mistake isn't really hard for me. But misusing the freedom given kills me. I was brought up around people a few years older than me. And fortunately, I witnessed their relationships, guilt and break ups. And decided not to make any or let my people make any such mistakes. But things turned out the other way. Best friends started hiding such incidences, they avoided me because if we met, they had to talk about it and would feel guilty about the same. I am not here to find faults or correct your lives. I am a friends, keeping you as safe as i can, warning you before you do something. I am still a friend not a foe.
We show love to our siblings by sacrificing little things for them. we show love to our parents by doing what they want us to and by caring. We show love to our friends by standing by them, every time they need us. But how do we love to someone we love above all? Doing all these does not please us. We need more. We need to show more. Then comes the act of getting physical. This not a planned act. It happens by itself in true love. But we have ethics. What if, that person is not our true love? What if we get married to somebody else? What if you fight and break-up later? That is why we have to keep a few actions on hold. Later, imagine the other person saying 'lets not get physical for a while. Lets see why we are really together'. Doesn't it hurt? Isn't it another way of insulting you or your ethics or love for him/her. Think about it...
